So this morning I sat down with a stack of pancakes and turned on last night's episode of The Real Housewives of New York. This week Jill and Bethany finally came face to face to attempt to hash out the issues they were having. This was weeks in the making and was brought to us in part by Ramona and her idiotic ideas.
As could have been predicted Jill and Bethany didn't really come to any closure and they ended up getting into a fight. Bethany was sitting on Ramona's couch crying and Jill was yelling at how toxic Bethany was to her life. Bethany was begging Jill to give her another chance and saying that she needed Jill in her life. The thing that really got me in this whole thing was LuAnn and her stupid attempts to to interfere with everything.
From the beginning of this season Lu Ann has been Jill's new BFF, conveniently taking over the vacancy left by Bethany at the end of last season. And since taking over this extremely important position Lu Ann has been possessive of Jill in a way that rivals the possession that a woman feels over her favorite purse or a lap dog. Thus far in the season Lu Ann has controlled almost all the moves that Jill has made with regards to Bethany. Lu Ann made it her job to make sure that Jill never forgave Bethany.
I feel like this was because Lu Ann just went through a divorce and lost her husband. I think because of this loss she decided that she needed someone to take the place of her husband, someone she could cling to. And that person just ended up being Jill. From watching the way that Jill talks about Bethany and the way they interacted when they were trying to hash things out, I can tell that Jill wants to give Bethany another chance. She wants to give Bethany the chance to be her friend again, she's just a little scared that things will go down hill again.
As someone that has lost friends because an argument with one person was broadcast to many and the fight escalated without my knowledge, I understand where Bethany is and what she is going through. She didn't know that Jill was making people pick sides and she didn't know that this fight was as big as it was. And now Lu Ann someone who has nothing to do with the situation, has stepped in and complicated the situation. She has gotten into Jill's head and told her to hate Bethany and cut her out completely.
I just wish that I knew Lu Ann's address so that I could write her a letter. In that letter I would tell her that she would be a lot better off in life if she learned to mind her own business and stay out of other people's lives. As a "countess" she should know that gossiping isn't very becoming of a lady and that it only makes things worse. And yet she is the biggest gossip of all the woman on the show. I would also tell her that if she wants to be a good friend to Jill she should help her figure out her issues and not just dictate to her how she should deal with things in her life. Jill isn't a 15 year old girl or her sorority sister- she is a grown woman who needs to be allowed to make her decision.
Lu Ann you need to back the F*** off and let Jill be a big girl. You also need to learn the lesson of what goes around comes around. That if you don't learn to keep your nose out of other people's business some one is going to stick their nose in your business and the one time you really don't want them to. It's called karma and even if you don't believe in it- history shows that it holds true most of the time.
Also while watching the show I wanted to write a letter to Bethany. I want to tell her to hang in there and that the one thing she can learn from all of this is who her true friends are. Alex has been such a good friend to her throughout this whole thing and I hope she realizes this and is going to strengthen the friendship. She also needs to see that Ramona really doesn't have her or Jill's best interest at heart. All she wants to do is keep the spotlight on her self- that's exactly why she said all those inflammatory things to Bethany while they walked the Brooklyn Bridge.
Bethany, you need to embrace the good things in your life, and accept that bad. You need to start to accept the fact that not everyone is meant to be in your life forever, some people are just guest stars that make short appreciance and then fade to black. Figure out who the leading ladies and men in you life are and focus on those relationships. Strengthen them and remember that when life gets the hardest is when you'll find out who your true friends are. Out of all the seasons and show I think that New York is my favorite, but I really think that these woman might want to get off tv and work on themselves. Watching this show just makes me happy that I'm not stupid enough to ever let myself be followed around by tv cameras and people that are going to then edit things to make them the most appealing to viewers.
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